Tuesday, August 17, 2010

A Memorial

Last week I made a rather vague post about a very tragic situation. So here I am shedding more light:

Our beloved family photographer Carissa Byers, who has taken our wedding photos, family portraits, Christmas cards, baby portraits,(pretty much any event that can be photographed, she has taken it), had a beautiful and very chunky/cute 1 year old daughter. Her daughter was being a typical baby, crawling around and exploring, when she started to choke on an apple. After a few days of ICU care, she finally gave into a good fight. This is her story if you care for more details.

I met Margot a handful of times. She still hadn't started talking but just her face and her eyes, she could tell me stories for hours on end. It truly saddened our family as we pondered the 'what-ifs'. The Baby and her were only a few months apart and the Wifey and I discussed about how they could become good friends, just because her parents were cool and we wanted to hang out with them too.

Despite the heartbreaking ordeal, Margot was brave and generous enough to put an organ donor sticker on the back of her license. This little girl, although she broke so many hearts with her departure, was able to bring so much hope and joy for other families. She was able to provide a new heart for a 2 year old girl, a liver for a 1 year old, and a new kidney for a 26 year old man. It is amazing.

Tonight will be her memorial.


  1. I'm very sorry for your friend's loss and for the pain your family is experiencing. I have been keeping them in my prayers and will continue to do so. I only hope that they find the kind of peace that surpasses all understanding.

  2. Oh my gosh that is the saddest thing I've ever heard. Thank you for sharing and I will be praying for Margot's family.

  3. I jumped to your blog from a post that your wife made in the pregnancy community on LJ awhile ago, like when your wife made her post about baby being born.

    My sister's friend and a groomsman in her wedding died two weeks before the wedding day (at the bachelor party) and this family decided to make him an organ donor when they determined that the was brain dead.

    Something that really stuck with me is that his girlfriend said..."Something that makes me feel happy is that no matter how many people who were sad that Jeff died there are 5 times as many people who are happy that their loved one gets to live because of his organs. It doesn't make me sleep at night, but it is something good."

    So I think it is a wonderful thing for this family to find it in their grief to be strong enough to donate her organs and I hope that they find their peace.